This is the full definition of miracle according to Merriam-Webster’s online dictionary.
- : an extraordinary event manifesting divine intervention in human affairs
- : an extremely outstanding or unusual event, thing, or accomplishment
- Christian Science: a divinely natural phenomenon experienced humanly as the fulfillment of spiritual law
This definition explains a traditional view of miracles as something supernatural and divinely generated, belonging only to the theists in the crowd. But what about people who don’t believe in a deity? Don’t they get to experience miracles too? I say they do.
Here is my full definition of a miracle.
- And explosion of awe (often accompanied by a feeling of joy) upon experiencing something beautiful, wonderful or inexplicable
- The awareness of the complexity of life and everything in it
- Deep gratitude for the privilege of being alive in this time and place knowing that you could have just as easily not been.
- Extending this sense of awe, joy, awareness and gratitude to everything and everyone you encounter
Miracles belong to everyone. You only need to be willing to recognize them.
I worked with a woman who told me that every night when she tucked her boy into bed she’d ask him, “Did you do something today that was good for you? Did you do something nice for someone else? Did you do something today just because it’s fun?”
She said those were their rules for a successful day.
Every day do something that’s maybe hard to do but good for you.
- Get enough sleep
- Eat healthful foods
- Wear sunscreen
- Drink enough water
- Brush and floss your teeth
- Tackle a chore you’ve been putting off, the one that you’ve spent more psychic time and energy on than the actual task would take!
Every day do something nice for someone else
- Smile at a stranger and say good morning
- Bring someone a treat – a cup of coffee or tea, or a flower from your garden
- Help a neighbour or family member
- Give your time or money to charity
- Send a note just to say “hi”. Wow. Consider writing it on paper and sending it by real mail.
- Hug someone
- Pay a compliment. You know I’m a big fan of this one!
Every day do something just because it’s fun
- Enjoy a big laugh
- Play a game
- Listen to music
- Eat a decadent dessert
- Enjoy a good book
- Play with your children or pets
- Make some art or try a hobby
- Dance. Better yet dance naked. Oh, go on… dance naked in front of a mirror. I do this one every day. Some parts of me keep dancing long after I’ve stopped moving!
The beautiful thing about these every day rules of success is that each one will make you feel better. The hard stuff, even just attempted, will boost your sense of accomplishment. You cannot do for others without putting a gloss on yourself. And doing something just because it’s fun reminds you that you are lovable and life is a joy.
If you manage to dance naked in front of your pets while flossing your neighbour’s teeth you will be positively sublime.
There are some things “they” have said we should do that I have discovered for myself – to my delight – are absolutely true.
Always have an up-to-date resume. Yes! Write your resume then keep it up-to-date. Whether you’re actively job hunting or not, just having this document prepared will make you feel hopeful and in charge of you, the moneymaking machine. I was able to apply for and get a dream job because I had an up-to-date resume available when it was requested on a whim by the hiring manager.
Use the good stuff. You’ve heard this before – burn the candles, wear the silk lingerie, use the good china. Do it! Sure the fancy soaps, expensive perfume and fine old scotch will get “used up.” That is the point. They’re not made to be forgotten in a dark drawer. These beautiful things add luscious sensory joy to life. Don’t deny yourself that.
Send “thank you” notes. When someone gives you a gift or performs a kindness, send a thank you note (even an email is okay). Is that old fashioned? No. Politeness, gratitude and consideration are timeless. Saying thanks reminds you of all you have to be grateful for and esteems the recipient.
Go out and get some fresh air. Magic and adventure won’t come knocking at your door. You have to get out in the world. At the very least you’ll clear your head and get a change of scenery.
I also can vouch for sunscreen, flossing, hugging, playing with children and afternoon naps.