When I was a very young child, I used to go to my mother’s carnation garden and try to open up all the budding flowers. At first I thought I could speed things along – get the buds fully open and beautiful so my mother could enjoy them sooner.
Even after my mother patiently and, what I can see now was the exercising of loving-mother restraint, repeatedly explained to me that I was not helping but was in fact destroying the flowers and they would never bloom, I persisted in trying to open the buds.
I knew my mother said it was wrong to do. I knew she said it wouldn’t work and that it upset her, but I was pretty sure that the laws of nature didn’t apply to me. Don’t we all think that sometimes?
You just have to give some things the time they need: to grow, to heal, to open, to close, to develop, to rise or recede. You can’t help every process along. What you can do is get out of the way and give time time.
One thought on “Give time time”
This is a lesson I’m still learning, to this day. I’m very impatient (even though so many people tell me they don’t have the patience to knit as they watch me do it) and it’s hard for me to wait and not do anything to help matters progress when I want them to. But I take a deep breath and remind myself that the people or things that I’m waiting for have their own needs, their own schedule… and that I should respect that.
I *am* getting better!