Sometimes it’s just that simple. If you’re waffling and wavering on a decision, gauge what your gut is saying. If you’re not getting a resounding and sincere “yes” then your answer is “no.”
Here’s an example of what I’m talking about. Consider this question.
Will you marry me? If the answer isn’t yes, it’s no. C’mon… are you going to answer “maybe” or “yes, but …”?
Or how about this example.
Do you love him/her? If it’s not yes, it’s no. Love may not be unconditional, but you’re either in or you’re out.
If your gut doesn’t say “yes”, or better “HELL YES!”, then it’s no. Go with that.