Sometimes it’s just that simple. If you’re waffling and wavering on a decision, gauge what your gut is saying. If you’re not getting a resounding and sincere “yes” then your answer is “no.”
Here’s an example of what I’m talking about. Consider this question.
Will you marry me? If the answer isn’t yes, it’s no. C’mon… are you going to answer “maybe” or “yes, but …”?
Or how about this example.
Do you love him/her? If it’s not yes, it’s no. Love may not be unconditional, but you’re either in or you’re out.
If your gut doesn’t say “yes”, or better “HELL YES!”, then it’s no. Go with that.
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In a similar vein – when I’m torn between two (or more options) I leave it to chance – flipping a coin, rolling dice, etc – and then pay attention to how I feel about the result. It helps bring my true feelings about the situation to the surface.
Hi, Kathye – that’s another great technique and I’ve used it (inadvertently) myself – only realizing once I got an answer that it wasn’t the answer I really wanted. The key though – your gut is always right!
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